There are those who say that such holidays were created by people who wanted to sell cards. Years ago, one friend told me, "I don't need gifts or cards because I am a mother; I don't do what I do so that I can be appreciated." Another friend encouraged her husband to do something for his own mother, but not for herself.
Honestly, I can see the point in all of those perspectives. And these celebrations certainly are not Biblically mandated; they are recent observances in the scope of history.
But I choose to celebrate Mother's Day and Father's Day because I wish to honor the role of mother and father.
When my husband gives me a card and chooses to give me a gift, he is saying to my children, Mom is doing an important job, and I appreciate it. He is honoring the role of "mother." And when I do the same for him, I am saying, "Your father is an honorable man and you are blessed that he is your father."
When we give to our parents, we are obeying the Biblical command to "Honor your father and mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving you." (Exodus 20:12)
When I give a gift to my own son (who is a father), or to my daughter (who is a mother), or to my son-in-law or my daughter-in-law, I am acknowledging and appreciating the challenging but vitally important job that they are doing.
So this weekend, we will honor fathers, and their unique position in the family.
I will honor my father-in-law who, although He passed away almost a year ago, has left behind a story of God's grace.
And we will thank our Heavenly Father for His grace.
The grace that He gives to imperfect human beings, the grace that enables them to be fathers and mothers and raise children in this sin-cursed world. The grace that takes their imperfect efforts and uses them anyway.
The grace that He gives to children whose parents are poor reflections of His glory. The grace that He offers to those who will accept Him. The grace that He extends to be the "father to the fatherless." (Psalm 68:5)
The grace that He gives to those who have lost their earthly father...as Ron did this year, as the children of my dear friend whose father passed so quickly last summer. Again, that promise that He will be the "father to the fatherless."
And for this grace...
So this weekend, we will honor fathers, and their unique position in the family.
I will honor my husband Ron whose quiet strength, sincere desire to do right, and love for the Lord has made him a wonderful father.
I will honor my own father whose integrity and hard work has made him a good example to his children and grandchildren.
I will honor my son-in-law Brian whose servant heart and selfless giving have been a tower of strength to His family.
I will honor my son Ryan across the miles, as he faithfully leads and trains his family in righteousness.
And we will thank our Heavenly Father for His grace.
The grace that He gives to imperfect human beings, the grace that enables them to be fathers and mothers and raise children in this sin-cursed world. The grace that takes their imperfect efforts and uses them anyway.
The grace that He gives to children whose parents are poor reflections of His glory. The grace that He offers to those who will accept Him. The grace that He extends to be the "father to the fatherless." (Psalm 68:5)
The grace that He gives to those who have lost their earthly father...as Ron did this year, as the children of my dear friend whose father passed so quickly last summer. Again, that promise that He will be the "father to the fatherless."
And for this grace...
But when the fulness of the time was come, God sent forth his Son,
made of a woman, made under the law,
To redeem them that were under the law,
that we might receive the adoption of sons.
And because ye are sons, God hath sent forth the Spirit of his Son into your hearts, crying, Abba, Father.
(Galations 4:4-6)
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One of the finest posts I've ever read on honoring the role of Father. It's making me rethink a few preconceived notions, too.
ReplyDeleteCheryl, I appreciate hearing your thoughts on this subject. (I'm kind of one of those who downplays some of these holidays - seems there's a card for everything these days.) But after hearing your thoughts I see much validity in them.
ReplyDeleteBut the way, my pastor-husband has planned several special features for the service tomorrow to honor fathers, and after church, we will host my father (and mother) along with my sister and her family for a Father's Day celebration. I'm very blessed that my father who is 85 still with us.
I loved reading the "unique positions" list of fathers in your life. What a wonderful group of men you have to celebrate today!
ReplyDeleteBeautiful, dear friend. I am going to link to your blog on my Facebook page.
ReplyDeleteMs Cheryl,
ReplyDeleteThis is my first visit to your wonderful blog.
The above post is so wonderful. We all have it in mind, but to write in a manner everyone can understand and appreciate is what matters. I find that in your writing.
And your love for your home is awesome!
Thanks
Sarah
I have enjoyed reading your thoughts and the blessings these dear people are to you and those around them. A very beautiful post. I thank you for sharing on Think on These Things!
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